I see this a lot with women, being that I work with an office full of them. We constantly find ways to tear each other down, rather than build each other up. Why is it so difficult for us to cheer our sister on when she is handling her business and making positive strides in life?
When someone you know does something really good that we should all be proud of, how many people do you talk about it with? Now on the other hand, if that person did something really bad or what you may consider stupid, how many people do you run out and tell? I'll bet there is a big difference in that number. BUT why is that?
Proverbs 17:17 (NLT) - "A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need."
The next time the temptation presents itself - do yourself a favor and resist it. Respect your sister enough to not talk about her. If you're bold enough to say it behind someone's back - be just as bold to say it in their presence.
I Thessalonians 4:12,13 (NLT) - "Make it your goal to live a quiet life, minding your own business and working with your hands, just as we instructed you before. Then people who are not Christians will respect the way you live, and you will not need to depend on others."
When we find ourselves constantly gossipping about other women, that's a clue that we are insecure about something in our own lives. Instead of tearing each other down, we should find out who we are in God. Having confidence in who He's created us to be removes our insecurities. It is only then that we can truly celebrate other women.
ReplyDeleteYou're absolutely correct about the insecurities. Sometimes it's also an attempt to take attention from themselves because their situation may be bad. When someone comes to us with talk about others - it is our responsibility to shut it down. Ask them if what they are about to say will help you because if not you don't need to know!
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